This might sound like the cheesy-kind of advice your parents might have given you, but it really is true that confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want. That and being yourself.
If you want to get a date, succeed in your career or just embrace your Inner Badass then boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to accomplish that. Here’s why…
What Confidence Really Means
If you have ever met an alpha individual who just seems to have everything under control, then you might have noticed that they are usually very confident. The truth is that the whole reason they appear so successful is that confidence. That’s because confidence sends a powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a worthy’.
Speaking in evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate or a superior competitor. Even if someone is what society would call unappealing in the dating world – if they are supremely confidence then it will seem as though they know something you don’t. The assumption is that they must have a reason to be that confident.
Thus we instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try to impress them, or try to be more like them. That’s why we gravitate toward confident people, want to be liked by them, to date them, have them as our friends and be like them.
A lot of people don’t realize the importance of confidence, and they think it is enough to be nice. They assume that by acting nice, they will get people to like them and they can that way overcome their looks, their stature, or their status.
But if you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually backfire: it starts to seem as though you want something or that you are inferior.
Conversely, if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your charm and your appeal. This niceness seems much more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone.
So stop acting in self-deprecating ways. Act like you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!
MArgret De bruyn
Margret De Bruyn was raised in an era where women were told they could have it all—but were never told it came at a price. She lost sight of herself and her worth, but has uncovered her Inner Badass. Now, she embraces life knowing the power to create an environment around her of love, acceptance and equality in within her.